From Chess, to Boxing, to Life.

Coder and chess player Gautam Narula said: "If chess is anything, it is a game of second chances. Chess, like life, rewards perseverance."

A player utilizes strategies and tactics to disarm the opponent while being aware of constant danger. Just like in life, in chess, sometimes you have to sacrifice something, to gained something bigger. You have to believe that a true sacrifice is a victory. You fight like hell and as hard as you can until the game is over. If you lose the game, learn from your mistake and you try again and again, giving your best until you win the game.

I've been obsessing over learning chess for about a year, and now I'm obsessing to do better at it. There are so many correlation between chess and life. The whole point of chess is that you have to protect the king, your king and you have to attack your opponent's king in order to win. In this world, we see so many powerful man ruling a country, a small team, a bigger team, a town. Yet, in chess, the queen is the only one who can move anywhere, and somehow showing more power than the king. It shows us that women are powerful. We are powerful. In chess, the queen might have to protect the king, and sometimes we have to sacrifice the queen in order to win the game. Isn't it always the same story? The man act like he's the one who's protecting everyone, when in fact, women are the glue. Women, are the one who protects and sometimes we have to sacrifice ourselves, to win the battle.

I watched Beautiful Creatures the other day, and there was this one speech that I keep reading and watching, "Sacrifice. It's not what I would call a modern word. People hear the word sacrifice and they become afraid that something will be taken away from them or that they will have to give up something they couldn't live without. Sacrifice, to them, means loss in a world telling us we could have it all. But I believe a true sacrifice is a victory. That's because it requires free will to give up something for someone you love, or something or someone you love more than yourself. I won't lie to you. It's a gamble. Sacrifice won't take away pain and loss, but it wins the battle against bitterness, the bitterness that dims the light on all of the true value in our lives." Such a powerful speech.

But I don't want to be just man's right hand, I want to rule, I want to lead. If I can't do that in the world that see and think that men are always and will always be more powerful than women, then lets rule this world together. Let women lead this world alongside man. Not as their, for example, wife, but really leading it together, together. Because the truth is, men need women more than we need men. No offence.

If you're a guy, you will probably think this post is bullshit. From what I see is that most men are so doubtful that women are capable of doing the things men supposed to do. Men thinks that, there are things that women should not do because it's a man's job to do it. Let me just say, no. Absolutely, not! We, women, are as capable as men.

I once saw on TV, a man and a woman boxed a heavy bag for a couple of minutes to show which one is stronger and faster in speed. At the end, the woman boxed the heavy bag like she was Captain America. Yeah, you heard me right, like Captain America. The heavy bag simply fell off. This shows us that sometimes, women are as capable as men. But lets not be a feminists here. We know that most women are not as physically strong as men, but there are things that most men can't do but women can.

Ray Williams once writes an interesting article and I welcome the research evidence that confirms my anecdotal experience of female leaders, "Tony Schwartz, writing in the Harvard Business Review Blog Network describes what women know about leadership that men don't, arguing "An effective modern leader requires a blend of intellectual qualities—The ability to think analytically, strategically and creatively—and emotional ones, including self-awareness, empathy and humility... I meet far more women with this blend of qualities than I do men."" Combine this with the common female traits of wanting to help other and do good in the world, plus a powerful work ethic and women indeed have to potential to be great leaders.

However, the risk is that too much introspection can lead to lower self-esteem and prevarication. Women have to work hard to ensure a robust balance between sharing/discussing issues and decisive action.

I know and have met a lot of different kind of people with different kind of mind, and I realized that just like Racism, "Sexism" and "Feminism" is still an issue. When in fact, women can also be a badass. 

From this post is that I just want us to take a minute and realized that, we all have our differences and each of us have weakness. Just because its a rough kind of job that you usually see men doing it, doesn't mean women are not capable of doing and taking care of herself. As someone who is pretty independent, I dislikes those who thinks I need protection, especially when doing something dangerous. I am pretty capable of doing it myself, physically and mentally. Women are strong. We are strong enough to at least rule and lead our own life. We are strong enough to point out that we don't need men to know who we are. We are strong, and no one can say otherwise.