TAKING A STAND: "LET'S END LIFE SENTENCES FOR THE SURVIVORS AND START LIFE SENTENCES FOR THE CRIMINALS"

After months and months of studying, I took this week (and maybe also next week) off from studying. Since I wasn't studying, I found myself having a free time that could be use to do things other than reading or watching movies. But I ended up reading anyway. I read tons and tons of articles from Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, and then I finally start reading tons of article from Thought Catalogue when I stumbled upon a compilation of articles and writings about the rapist, Brock Turner case—here is the link, you can download the pdf for free. If you don't know who Brock Allen Turner is, I suggest you look him up but I will promise you by the end of it you'll feel so enraged and all you want to do is beat the shit out of this kinds of people, even those who can't even do their job right like the Judge.

The flaws in the system and the damage rape culture causes the society is enraging, I am filled with furious anger and disgust. The problem with groups who deal with rape is that they try to educate women about how to defend themselves. What really needs to be done is teaching men not to rape. Go to the source and start there. No matter how much you were drinking that night, no matter what you were wearing, no is NO. Survivors should know that what they went through is a big deal and they should not be or feel like they are being punished for something that someone did to them.

Rape and sexual assault are something that affect both men and women, but right now I will be focusing on this woman and this one man convicted of three sexual assault felonies. What others don't understand that the perpetuator will be sentence a minimum of 14 years or more if they are found guilty but there is also a chance where they are not found guilty and in Brock Turner case, the sentence might be reduced from 6 months to 3 months because of 'good behaviour' and the reason he was only sentence for 6 months in the first place was because he was a 'good' athlete and because the judge justify that a longer sentence would "have a sever impact on him" and his father thinks that the '20 minutes of his action' out of 20 plus year of his life should not altered his life forever—as it should—and though the sentence was reduced, his so call father said it was still 'a steep price to pay.' I mean, come on! Boohoo, Poor Brock can't eat steak because he feel depressed. Well, Boohoo he no longer a student in Stanford. And he feel sad and depressed isn't because he raped somebody, it wasn't because he did something wrong, it was because he thinks he is the victim. Well I guess that's that. I guess you can be athletic and talented and I guess smart, and intelligent, but he has zero moral compass. Piece of shit. And what they—especially the Turner's, in this case—forget to think about is the victim or the survivor as I would call her. 

Her life is altered forever. She may not be conscious at the time to remember every single detail of it, but she will always be reminded of that night. Though she might look fine, but she will always be in constant fear, never feel safe. Years from now, she will still be in fear and she might even have flashbacks that would broke her to pieces. She'd feel so impure, and so filthy, she'd wish she could crawl out of her skin. 

The survivors might think how they could have stop it; from they could've have said no louder, fight the perpetuator, or the could have run. But sometimes, in situation like this, we could scream, or fight, or flight, but sometimes, we were so shocked and all we can do is just stood there. But in this case, she was already unconscious. She was even more powerless. She can't even say a whole sentence that make sense, let alone fight him or make a run for it.

So as a woman, a person, and for heaven's sake, as a human being, I am taking a stand. I'll stand with women—and men—around the world: no more rape, no more sexual assault, no more abuse and sexual violence. This is one of the very crucial issue in society and in the world, and we should keep the discussion going because one of the thing that we learned from the survivors is that speaking out is important and words can make a hell of a difference. So let's end life sentences for the survivors and start life sentences for the perpetuator—for the criminals. And let's hope to God that the Justice System anywhere in the world would be fixed so that no matter what their gender is, or their skin color, or how privileged they are, they would be sentence accordingly and justly.